Understanding fetishes the right way

by Dr.Pranjal on July 10, 2023 , 5 min read

A fetish technically refers to an attraction to an inanimate object, although this includes body parts, such as feet (like a foot fetish). So a Fetishes are a very normal part of a healthy sex life. Fetish is a type of kink that makes sexual desires come through.

The kink community is all about consent, communication, and compromise. Before trying any new sex act, obtaining consent is a must and is even considered a sacred act performing the you-know-what.

Although opening up about fetishes isn’t common here, everyone most probably has one (or more) already. 

There's a lot of taboo and shame shadowing sexual culture in our society. but the brain wants what it wants. This blog is meant to break some of those stigmas and open up to you the world of fetishes as everyone who’s anyone would expand on their sexual journeys. Let’s take a look at some of the fetishes that are totally normal in our Indian societies.

Feet- Let’s start from the bottom…

Podophilia or fetish for feet is one of the most common fetishes. If you find yourself lusting after a pair of pretty feet, you probably have a foot fetish. What's even there to get turned on by, you ask? It mostly comes from the fact that feet are curved, especially at the sole which resembles the curves in a woman's body. 

If your partner is into feet, you can expect foot massages and pedicures in store for you.

Most men are victims of having a foot fetish. You may find this fetish particularly off-putting but it's worth a shot to explore with your partner.

Navels are pleasure buttons

Sexualized depictions of navels have been witnessed in Indian cinemas for a long time. This fetish is specific to the Indian community, we Indians love a cute lil belly button, especially when it's peaking out from a saree or lehenga. Navels are a sensual and beautiful part of the human body, even for men. 

The navel and the region below (called the midriff), when touched by the finger or the tip of the tongue, result in erotic sensations. You can also use props like a feather, flower, or ice cubes to tease your partner. 

Kinky claws (Quirofilia) 

A fetish for hands is referred to as quirofilia, which is perceived by an attraction to fingers, pretty French nails, or a great manicure, or smoking hot hands bulging in linear veins. This fetish is non-sexual in nature because all hands are usefully sexy. 

From the underrated hand job to sensual back rubs, hands create all forms of pleasure. When these hands participate in nonsexual activities like washing the dishes with soap and bubbles, you can imagine how the person watching would get attracted to those glistening wet hands. 

Why tresses are hawt

Hair is another popular fetish. Whether it’s tied in ponytails, curls, or braids, every person has their own specific preference for hair type. This fetish could also be more focused on specific styles. When hair is styled in a ponytail, it can easily resemble a whip or provide you with something to pull while you’re in the heat of the moment. 

Men enjoy the feel of a woman's hair especially when it's soft, silky, and well-kept. Nowadays women who experiment with their hair like dyeing them a certain fancy color can be quite the visual stimulation. According to The Times of India, men love to play with a woman's hair, like twirling and running their fingers through the length of her hair and getting naughty. It's the same for women too. Playing with your partner's hair is always a sign of comfort and belongingness in the relationship. 

Acting in bed? You could be the MC

Role-playing involves people taking on different character roles to spice up their sex lives. Common examples include doctors and patients/nurses, bosses and secretaries, rich house owners and maids, or college students and professor.

Being someone you’re not… (for a good reason), a.k.a., Age Play

Age play is a form of role-playing in which one or both partners pretend to be an age other than their own. Chances are you’ve already experienced play if you’ve ever called a partner daddy or mommy in bed. The “daddy dom–baby girl sub” setup is very common.

One very common form of age fetish among the Indian population is the ‘aunty’ or ‘bhabhi’ fetish. Usually, heterosexual men feel sexually attracted to older women of reproductive age, like aunties

As these older women wear traditional clothing like a saree which exposes their bodies like no other piece of clothing does, it is all the more attractive. Finding yourself wanting your partner to pretend to be an older woman or her looking stunning in a sari could mean you get off to the bhabhi fetish.

The B in BDSM 

Bondage is a form of restraint that's often a form of pleasure within the four walls of the bedroom. Some people enjoy being tied up, while some enjoy tying up their partner, and others like both. 

Someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role is referred to as a switch

Bondage is common among the millennials of India (with the consent of course) and uses kinky sex toys such as handcuffs or rope. Women also love the act of bondage with their men. You can also use a scarf, a tie, or a T-shirt to restrain your partner's wrists when you're getting it on. 

Kinks that hit hard

Impact play refers to the use of hands, paddles, whips, or whatever you have around your house (spatulas work too) to hit the body, pleasurably. If you’ve ever playfully spanked your partner during sex, that’s impact play. If you’re the one providing the impact, parts of the body that are fatty and thick, such as the side of the butt, hips, or thighs will become playful turn-ons for you and your partner. 

Name-calling, indulging in personal verbal attacks, and using inciting, defamatory or hateful words and phrases in bed can be a huge turn-on for some (watch out for the quiet ones).

Mirror | xeS? 

This fetish involves people getting aroused by having sex in front of a mirror. Having sex in front of the mirror helps build confidence and body positivity with your partner. To spice things up, try doing it in front of a dirty mirror or after a hot shower.

Eye contact and frequent touching while looking at each other can be really enticing and helps to create a strong bond by nonverbally communicating with your partner as to how much you are enjoying it. 

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Love for baby bumps


Pregnant women are beautiful, especially with their round bellies and cute navels bugling out. Some people can’t help but appreciate and get turned on by all that goodness. Usually influenced by porn.  For some, it's the "glow" pregnant women have or looking at a large round belly (the bigger the better) and heavy breasts filled with milk. And for others, is the fact that it seems taboo—though pregnant women can have sex.


Fetishes are a very normal part of a healthy sex life. Spend sometime to understand your partner's desires and fetishes so that you can improve your sexual experience.  

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